you gotta keep those two away from eachother if you wanna keep goin out wit this fella, you should have your friend whacked, thats what Tony soprano would probably do

this is very close to myheart. i agree wth casbah

Siggy,

I say.. You be happy.. He's with YOU now. and they DO have a History.. but That's just what it is.. HIstory.. yesterdays news.. You are his TODAY news

mine use to have a real close guy friend, they use to do stuff together all the time. i was always assured nothing was going on, until i saw there was something going on with my own two eyes.

That sucks!

I mean, shit happens and when you're in love... it makes you blind.. that sucks that people can be like that. If you love someone WHy would One EVER EVER EVER want to do anything to hurt that person! People suck sometimes!

have you ever been in the process of hooking up with a girl and then have some dude come into the picture suddenly and "yanks" her away

more then a few handfulls of times. even from roomates.

^^ u knwo the girl is to be blamed there too, she would have to choose that person over u, for it to happen.

^yeah, and its usually at that point that i realise she wasnt even worth talking to in the first place, but still, its a huge disapointment

man fuck those girls. damn that shit pisses me off.

ROX you just have to let it flow IMO. Those two were friends before you were dating him, so to force them to stop being friends would be selfish and wrong imo.

^I concur

yep

Well, I can understand what you're going through ROX, I'm a jealous maniac, scorpio nature I guess... but, seriously.. you have to TRY to let it alone.. or you'll push him away, cause he'll think you're psycho. Try not to let it worry you, unless you feel there is a REAL reason to be conserned.. and then talk to him about it.

How well do you guys express yourselves when it comes to this??

I can't let it alone! I feel like the third wheel ALL the time. When we go somewhere, she is sitting in the front seat cuz she gets queasy in the back and lord knows of course all hell will break loose if poor Sarrah's stomach hurts. And then when he drops us off home cuz we live in the same apt. complex he kisses her first and then i get out from the back and THEN we kiss. I know this all sounds so petty, but it's really bugging me.

he kisses her?? Seriously, What the hell? I guess I'm kinda jealous too.. but that's way pushin it!


I would be trippin too!

love triangle!

Naw only on the cheek.

Zap I totally agree with you. ROX did you feel this awkward when you werent dating him? Sounds kind of like you are just wanting all of his attention, which I can understand, but I thought you knew that it was going to be awkward before you even got involved. If you have a talk with him, it may make him feel like you are being possessive. I know it would make me feel that way.

Has he always kissed his "girl" friends on the cheek before? Like when the two of you were friends before you started dating? If he did then I wouldnt worry too much about it.

Dude, I don't want ALL his attention, I want like 10%...I'm not kidding when I say that I am such the thrid wheel whenver we go out.

im not trying to take shots at u here rox, im just trying to help if I can dude.

I understand, but you don't get it! I'm never in the convo...it's just them two...i can't even talk to her!

No I think i get it man. I just dont know if it would be smart to bring it up or not. Cause youve only been with this guy for a bit now, ya know? But i dont know what kind of a connection the two of you have.

Tell your friend Sarrah to take some pepto bismol and sit in the backseat.

I think I have to tell him. Me and him are pretty close. If I keep this bottled up i'll scream. And the next time I see her I dunno...I'll be in not the brightest of moods...

that's cool ur trying to deal with it rox, see if it was me, and it has happened before haha i just end it, im jealouse and i know, being a girl, that girls get catty bout their guy-friends, or exbfs, so yeah, good times rox, good on u, haha i couldnt do it...i dont like cattyness and i just dont like having to fight my way thru to be with a guy, or be uncomfortable with his friends just coz i like him u know


but that's just me

^the thing is is that the girl is my close friend and i met him through her. so yeah. it's not like she's some other exgirlfriend that i'm not too friendly w/.

break up with the dude, theres other guys out there

I like him too much. I want it to work. So we are just not gonna all 3 hang out. I told him I can't be around them. So I said, you hang w/ me alone and you hang w/ her alone. not us together.

i dont like this guy, he sounds like a shady fella

i dunno 'bout this one.

lol he's straight just very oblivious to things. But hey, isn't a relationship work? and i'm willing to work.

sounds like he'll be too much work though

Maybe but I'm willing to work. Thank you for caring though!

well ive been in similar situations, but i know what its like, it sucks

Dang! Who would be mean to such an awesome human like you?

Siggy,

If he's not treating you the way you think you deserve to be treated than maybe he's not worth it! Is he worth it?

He's treating me right and we discussed it already. He said he thinks it could work w/ us 3 chilling together but i don't think so and he said he'd do w/e to make me happy.

i do have a question but this is mostly a rant i didn't feel like opening a whole new topic for...

how do your control you anger? ... should you control your anger?

ok... i just got out of my Drawing Final Critique... i can TOTALLY handle CONSTRUCTIVE critisism(sp?) .... but my 'prof' this semester was a real Bruja like no other... i wasn't inspired AT ALL and she just reeeeeally made me dislike that class ALL semester and therefore kinda did the opposite of her job and TURNED ME OFF to drawing... she didn't say or do anything that inspired me what so ever and she often contradicted herself when she tried to sound somewhat intelligent...
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..anyway... if i don't agree with the way a person treats others it shows.. she did NOT earn my respect (she was disrespectful to many of us for stupid-pety-personal shit which has nothing to do with the curriculum or the bettering of our education -- can't afford the "right" supplies, english is not your first language, don't have the same political standing... ) ... my dislike for this person was completely evident since the day i just FELT she was not a good person... everyone knew this.. and above all she KNOWS this so she kinda reeeeeeeeeeally picks on me... especially today... geez. It was funny tho cuz the things she was saying were just crazy nonsensical bull (kinda like this rant)...

right. so... under any other circumstances if somebody disrespected ME... mi 'familia' ... like that... it'd be on... ... but i can't afford to fail... i've been taking art classes forever... they haven't been the most formal.. haven't been all that strict.. etc... but i've had my range of instructers... the good, the bad.. and now the UGLY.... and i've had some pretty harsh critiques from students and teachers but which in the end have only improved my shabby skills... if she had said something anytime during the semester to actually HELP instead of TEAR DOWN anyone in the class.. i'd have no problem with the Witch.. but the thing is that she's just not a good teacher.. she's VERY close-minded and personally the simple sound of her voice makes me wanna yank my hair out... or better yet hers...

... and this is where the anger comes into play...
...i can't my teacher.... that'd be stupid on sooo many levels... one being i can't afford to, money-wise... another being she hasn't been physical with me either.. (altho this one time she did grab MY wrist and yanked MY pencil from ME and started drawing, quite sloppy i might add, on MY paper... i had to walk out... i'm not a big fan of people grabbing ME and invading MY SPACE...) ...
... she made somebody cry in class today ... what the hell? ... i've been in another art class with this person too... and she's fucking HARD... she'd bust a cap in your butt if need be... but esa Bruja bombarded her with SHIT nonstop.. like "dAaAaAmn ... Chiiiill " .... she basically attacked anyone who didn't "Yes ma'am" her all semester... basically.

... i have this theory that she's a failed artist herself and is kinda doing to us what they've done to her....

aaaaaaaaanyway.....
i'm glad that's over with and as long as she's not my Painting Prof. next semester, i'm good to go....

it just sucks that i had to hold my tongue over such a Wicked person (you really had to be there)....
...we had teacher evaluations last week and i was COMPLETELY honest on it... not being vindictive... just being honest... and it was indeed the WORST evaulation i have EVER had to give anybody....

you should've seen how many people ran outside to have a smoke after it was all over... had a few drinks with mi amiga and some classmates after that... it was baAaAd...

anyway...to avoid the nasty effects of anger i usually ke to draw/paint/get dirty.. you know.. but right now i'm just not feeling the whole drawing thing......

soo...
how do you control you anger? ... should you control your anger? ... ...

and i'll shut up now...

Ayy Mija!!



Let it all out!! Anger.. is a Gift!

anger is a gift...

si but i'm kinda feeling like a punk for holding back..
anyway...i know my grade's gonna suffer BIG time for my evil eyes and sadistic smile... no need to make it worse i suppose...

2 finals left to go next week and then i can just chiiiiiiiill for a few months... :yay: (edit: is what i meant)

nuff complaining...

ozorage, i would change up a few words in your post and then send it to the head of your department, or the head of your school, give examples of what shes done to you and others. hell even send a copy to the school newspaper if you have one. fuck her over, i know the kinds of people you are talking about, and usually you just have to sit back and take it in the ass. i say you go after her, try and get her in trouble for what shes done. those types of people have no right teaching anybody else.

^ i basically did that on the teacher evaluation form which goes to the head of the dept without going through her... but i'll definately work on sending a well thought out rant to the head of the dept.. sending it out to the head of the school would be a joke.. the President of the school is as pretentious as she is. we've dealt with her before and she's kinda really shown us she doesn't give a shit.... i know what school i go to and i'm not expecting AMAZING professors but i actually would like to have learned something... the CUNY system used to be free and now i gotta get my moneys worth...

ozo I know exactly what your talking about. I took Art in college, and in one of my drawing classes I had this one teacher who was a fucking prick all the time. And I basically just figured the same thing you did, he is just a washed up artist taking his aggression out on young artists who still believe that they can make a difference. I spent hours and hours even days working on some of the drawings for his calss, and I never missed a day, and the fucker gave me a c without reason. My situation probably wasnt as bad as yours is, so I think red's suggestion is a good idea.

talk to some of your classmates and see if they will do the same thing. if they get letters from a bunch of people they will have to address the problem.

power in numbers.

the people united will never be defeated

i was thinking i want to switch schools (not because of her altho she made me want to more...) ... anyway, i'd really just like to make this one better instead of running away from the problems... baby steps... not gonna campaign like crazy but if i can fix this one thing i'll be feeling great... thanks guys... you managed to inspire me ....


mooooooving right along...

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